Tuesday, January 21, 2020

Help Your Child Practice Self Compassion

Information adapted from The Power of Self Compassion an Audible Original by Laurie Cameron 

Remember our children are always watching us.  They learn more about us from what we do than what we say.  Therefore, more is caught than taught. As you read through this,  think about how you can be an example to your child by practicing these steps as well. 

Awareness - Help Them Be Aware of Their Pain
Help your child be aware of when they are in pain. Acknowledge and celebrate that that they made a mistake.  Let them know it is normal and okay to feel bad about it. We are human and we are going to make mistakes. We don’t want them to be stuck in this space, however, we also don’t want to sugar coat it either. 

Empathy - Help Them Empathize With Their Selves and Others 
Often times we are hardest on ourselves.  The things we find ourselves saying through self talk is just down right harmful.   When you hear yourself or your child spiraling down this dark place, remind yourself or your child that they need to be empathetic toward themselves. Practice by thinking about what you would say to a good friend in this situation and say it to yourself. 

Motivation - Help Them Create a Habit of Self Compassion 
The latest research says it takes sixty-six plus times (Good Habits, Bad Habits) to do something before it becomes a habit. Helping your child practice self compassion now is going to help them grow and succeed in the future. Recently, Google launched  Project Aristotle to find out what creates the most effective teams.  They found out it is psychological safety. When we can be loving and kind to ourselves we are more loving and kind to others. 

Wednesday, September 11, 2019

Scheduling a Meeting with the Counselor

We want to empower our students to ask for what they need and know how to access their supports. Meeting with a school counselor is one way a student can get support at Old Bonhomme.  Students meet with a school counselor for a variety of reasons which may include going through a tough time, friendship problems, wanting strategies to deal with a problem or situation, practicing skills, and sometimes they just want to eat in a “private dining hall” (counseling office) with a few friends. 

You can click the Counselor Request button above to schedule a meeting. Another way to request a meeting with the counselor is by following these three steps.  

1. Go to the Old Bonhomme Dashboard              

2. Click on this Button
3. Complete Form 

The Old Bonhomme Dashboard can be found by clicking on the eagle on the Old Bonhomme website. A student, teacher, or parent can complete a request for a student or themselves.  It can be completed at home or school. At anytime feel free to call or email one of us at school. 

Saturday, April 20, 2019

Experience the World of Work

Below are a few pictures from Career Presentations in our classrooms this spring.  Click here to see more. 

Dr. Julia Partin a podatrist/surgeon presented to our Mrs. Schreiner's first grade class. 

Alan Mandel a lawyer presented to Ms. DeVries' third grade class. 

Sean Lloyd a police officer presented to Mrs. Crawford's third grade class. 

Tuesday, April 9, 2019

Friendship Troubles Book Club

Developmentally third grade is when friendships start to get complicated. We have found success using the book Friendship Troubles to help our girls deal with fights, being left out, and the whole popularity thing.

A Friendship Troubles book has been checked out to all third grade girls.  They have been asked to read a chapter a week and keep the book at home until we collect them on May 20. The classroom teachers will incorporate discussion about the book informally and formally through class meetings between now and the end of the school year.  Below we have provided some activities and discussion ideas for caregivers to incorporate at home.

Needs to be read by
Activity & Discussion Ideas
April 12
All About Friends
Talk to your daughter about your friends and the great qualities they have that make them your friend. Discuss with your daughter the qualities they look for in a friend. Why are these qualities important to remember?
April 19
Friendship Hot Spots
Tell your daughter about some tough situations you have been in with friends. Discuss with your daughter how jealousy is like poison. What are other things hurt friendships?
April 26
Working It Out
Talk to your daughter about a time you solved a problem with a friend.  Why is knowing how to solve your own problems important?
May 3
Take the Secret Test (pg. 50) with your child and have a discussion about the questions.
May 10
Bullies & Rule Setters
Role play different ways to deal with someone who is displaying bullying behaviors.
May 17
All About You
Help your daughter brainstorm some quick fixes for when they get down. Look at pages 82 & 83 for guidance.
May 20
All books need to be returned to your classroom teacher.

A big thank you to the OB PTO for purchasing the books. 

Tuesday, March 26, 2019

Tourette Syndrome Presentation

Lynn Dunlap, from the Tourette Association of American, Missouri Chapter presented to our staff about Understanding Tourette Syndrome And Its Effects on Learning.

We had two different presentations one in the afternoon and one in the morning. 

Haim Ginotts statement was a great way to start the in-service. 

We ordered this book to help us further understand how to help our students. 

Saturday, March 2, 2019

OB Community Weekly Resource Tip

Together we can learn from each other by sharing our tips and resources. Please consider sharing a tip or resource that has helped you be a better person, caregiver, and/or partner. We will feature the tip(s) and/or resource(s) in our weekly OB News. If you don't want your name mentioned in the newsletter you don't have to complete the name portion of the survey. Click here to submit your tip.  

I get up extra early each morning to run. I learned soon after we had our first of four daughters that I needed to take care of myself FIRST before I could take care of others. I never allow myself to feel guilty for leaving the girls for an hour+ in those wee hours ~ I know that I am a better and a happier mom/spouse/human when I take the time to take care of myself each and every day. 

Heather Huewe, OB Parent